Monthly Archives: August 2013

Sorry, I’m Gay ––Prison Break Actor Wentworth Miller Reveals

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It grieved one soul seeing the way and manner people are going about this gay thing lately, I hope one day humanity will not just stop to exists as a result of such procreation declining acts?

As you read this, Prison Break lead actor Wntworth Miller has come out to declare that he is gay. The 41yrs old actor, who was invited to the Saint Petersburg Film Festival in Russia, wrote an open letter informing them that he won’t honour the invitation because of the anti-gay law in Russia.

See the popular actor’s revelation below:

“Thank you for your kind invitation. As someone who has enjoyed visiting Russia in the past and can also claim a degree of Russian ancestry, it would make me happy to say yes. However, as a gay man, I must decline. I am deeply troubled by the current attitude toward and treatment of gay men and women by the Russian government.

“The situation is in no way acceptable, and I cannot in good conscience participate in a celebratory occasion hosted by a country where people like myself are being systematically denied their basic right to live and love openly. Perhaps, when and if circumstances improve, I’ll be free to make a different choice.
Until then.”

– Wentworth Miller

Pls, such ungodly acts should be seen as witchcraft…….. bola ada

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Jonathan Appoints Bongos Ikwue As Chairman Of NFC Board

Bongos Ikwue

It is interesting to know that some days back our very own Mr President, Goodluck Jonathan just approved the appointment of veteran musician and creator of the soundtrack of Cock Crow At Dawn,a popular TV drama in the 80s Bongos Ikwue ,  as Chairman of the board of the Nigerian Films Corporation, NFC.

Recently our correspondents has been reaching out to general Nigerians to really know if the award was such a worth-while one or just a politricks as usual. so lets know if your take on this one through your comments

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COZA ex-member, Ese Walter, exposes Senior Pastor’s unbelievable sexual escapades.

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I stumble on this below news  on olufamous and I think publishing it for your interesting informative read would be worth-while. This was a sex excapades that transpires between former coza member, ese walter and

WARNING! What you will see below is an explosive…

By Ese Walter: I want to talk about something I have kept bottled up inside for longer than necessary. I have also decided to use real names, as my defense for any accusation of slander is justification. I tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but. However, feel free to throw your doubt around but know that I am past the shaming game (where victims of abuse are shot down by blame) I am no longer a victim but a survivor who is sharing her experience to help others caught in same web of abuse, guilt and shame. We only get to live once right? So here, it goes.

I recently came to know this event too was abuse (recently here means about 6 months ago). It has literally been eating me up having to drive by another billboard advertising preachers, or hearing his name, or even trying to ask about the validity of the entire salvation story and whether or not there is a God that truly watches over his people. That being said, I’m just going to say it as it is. This is a recap of my affair with Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA (Common Wealth Of Zion Assembly) Abuja chapter. This affair I have come to know as a form of abuse as you would see the different elements of abuse very present.

I met Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo many years ago. I was getting bored of the church I was attending and someone suggested COZA. At the time, I had never heard about it. My friend said, go there, I’m sure you would enjoy the word. But he also gave me a strong warning. He said he would advice that I remain a member only and not join the workforce. I agreed. The first time I attended COZA, I felt it was my church and decided I was going to plant my ass there. About eleven months had gone by and I was still attending the services quietly and faithfully. I really did like the church. One day a worker in the church approached me that the senior pastor wanted to see me.

Me? I thought. Why would the senior pastor want to see me? Not the second man but the head nigga in charge? Ok na! I started to think my sin was oozing so bad the pastor could tell I needed Jesus. (Poor old me.) I saw him at the end of the second service (they had two services at the time) and he said to me that he would like me to work with him. I knew I had no intentions of becoming a pastor so I had to ask in what capacity. He said he’d like for me to join a department, preferably the Pastoral Care Unit (PCU).

A few weeks later, against my friend’s advice not to join the workforce, I was a PCU member. All of a sudden, I had some status in church. I was ‘somebody.’ Dress had to be on point, hair, shoes and what not… As workers, we were literally trying to outshine each other or so it seemed. Anyways, I felt like I was a privileged member of an elite circle. Hehehe. (It did feel good though, for the most part.)

About a year after joining the workforce, I was on my way to London for a Masters degree program that would last two years. As was the rule for workers travelling, I wrote to say I would be away for 2 years and Pastor Biodun Fotoyinbo asked that I keep in touch by sending him my number and email when I had settled in London so he “makes sure I continue in the faith” because according to him, people loose their faith when they leave home and he wanted to make sure I didn’t. So, on that note, as soon as I got a phone line in London, I was sure to call ‘my pastor’ to say I arrived safe, had settled in and also gave my phone number.

We had spoken a few times especially when COZA started to stream online. I always watched and would give feedback on quality of production and share a little bit on the challenges I faced settling in a new land. One evening, Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo called me that he was coming to London and needed me to help him make some hotel bookings as the person who was meant to do it couldn’t get it done (this was rather strange as I had never been involved in his travel itinerary). Later that day, he said it had been sorted and my help would not be required but that he would like me to arrange a cab to pick him up from Heathrow. I was happy to help my pastor from Nigeria and even saw it as a privilege. (I would later come to learn that all of this was a calculated attempt to hatch a plan that I suspect was set in motion when I was asked to join the workforce.)

The cab guy was there to get him the next day and when he arrived, he called to ask why I didn’t accompany the cab to pick him up (again, this was strange but I stopped my mind from overanalyzing the situation as I knew I had no business with his visit to London). About two hours later, he called me and said he would like to see me. When I arrived his hotel, I called from the reception but he asked that I come upstairs. I got to the room and tried to stop my mind from thinking why I was going to his room. As he opened the door and invited me in, I had to speak to my heart to stop its palpitations. My better judgment asked me not to go into the room but the kind of reverence I had for Pasotr Biodun Fatoyinbo bordered on fear and I steeped into that room.

“Care for a drink?” Asked Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo.
“No sir,” I said.
“You don’t have to be shy Ese, even if it’s alcohol, feel free and order what you want.” I wasn’t sure I heard my pastor asking me to order alcohol. I imagined it was a test and ignored the voice inside that was saying, “I’d have henny and coke please.” He proceeded to ask how I had been coping in London and if I was a committed member of any church. He also said he thought there was something special about me and wanted to know that I had not strayed from my faith. I really thought he had heard I was doing something I shouldn’t while in London but tried my best to focus on the conversation instead of my straying thoughts. He kept telling me to relax and feel comfortable with talking to him. After a few minutes, he asked that we go to the roof of the hotel as his room was a pent suite and had a connecting door to the roof.

While there, he sat on a reclining chair and asked me to come sit on his laps. This was a bit awkward for me and I froze for a moment as I asked why. He said he had told me to feel free with him and loosen up. I found myself strolling to sit on his laps. At that moment, I felt like a little girl who was experiencing something her mind couldn’t fathom. He asked me to kiss him and all I could think about was seeing him preach on the pulpit back in COZA Abuja, Nigeria, which was my home church. He again said ‘feel free Ese.’ And asked again, that I kiss him.

A few hours later, let’s just say, we were rolling under the sheets. It felt as though my mind had paused. I am not saying I was jazzed, (although it’s possible I was in some trancelike state and didn’t know it but I just was so afraid that I couldn’t say or think otherwise.)

That was the beginning of this affair. A sexual affair that went on for a little over a week, DAILY!

I can hear somebody’s mind thinking, ‘well, you weren’t raped.” And I remember a pastor I opened up to when I couldn’t take all the mind games asking if I seduced him. No, I didn’t seduce him and no, I wasn’t raped but I felt trapped in this affair. Come to think of it, how could I have seduced him when I wanted nothing from him? I mean, I was too busy minding my business in London trying to get through with my masters program and I was overly comfortable. And even if I wanted to seduce anyone, it wouldn’t be a married man, not to mention a married pastor.

What I couldn’t reconcile the whole time, was how the same person who preached against the very things we were doing (i.e drinking in pubs, fornicating, committing adultery) was the same person endorsing and encouraging it.

At some point, I got really confused about what Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and I were doing that I had to ask how he handles it. I will never forget what he said to me. He said and I quote, “I will teach you a level of grace that you don’t understand.” My mind couldn’t fathom that somehow grace was enough covering for not just fornication on my path, adultery on his path and the many lies that was bound to follow what we were doing that was clearly abominable. I somehow dealt with the thoughts and fears that followed on my path. He had said to me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend and he would take me around the world and spoil me with money and things. Somehow, money had never been one of the things that motivated me (I am from a home where all my needs have been adequately met) In all my ‘badness’ through finding myself, I never did things I did for money but more of rebellion against rules and authority.

Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo also said to me that he had a dream where I exposed what was happening to the media. He said it was all over the place and that people were calling me the girl that caused chaos in COZA. He also said I should remember the bible said to “touch not God’s anointed.” I immediately started to rebuke the devil and said I could never do anything like that. I was almost swearing with my entire family as I thought really I had touched God’s anointed by submitting my body to be used. Little did I know at the time that all of these were ways to mess with my mind and even manipulate my thoughts.

Fast-forward a few months later, I was back in Nigeria and my church had become uncomfortable. Anytime I sat in church and listened to Pastor Biodun preach, I felt shame. I finally sent him a message saying I wasn’t comfortable anymore. I was confused and needed to talk about what had happened. He said I should meet him to talk and I did. It was a really weird meeting for me especially when he tried to kiss me at our meeting. I finally realized at this point that he couldn’t help me. I thought God was angry with me and I couldn’t pray so I decided to withdraw completely from COZA. This was the beginning of my mental torture. I couldn’t talk to my family because already, I was the only one attending a different church and somehow my mom never liked the idea. As the days went by I tried to use drinking and smoking to cover up the deep shame and guilt I was battling with. But as soon as the high was over, the thoughts came back and I felt stuck like I couldn’t move forward.

I felt I had to talk to someone and I decided to speak to my then good friend, Ernest Akale but unfortunately for me, Mr. Ernest did not have the capacity to hold what I said to him. He broke down completely the days that followed and I found myself having to pause how I was feeling and what I was struggling with to help my friend be strong. After a while, he withdrew from not just me but his then fiancé and friends. I had to then tell the fiancé what had caused it (she suspected we were having an affair so I had to clear the air) To my surprise she was a lot stronger than her man and told me to suck it up (I’m paraphrasing). She said if she were me, she wouldn’t leave the church but stay to torment Pastor Biodun and collect money from him. Ok! That sounded extreme for me, as my intention was not to blackmail but to heal my broken self. Anyways, I finally found the courage to speak to my then unit head who said he was going to talk to Pastor Biodun but didn’t have the liver to do so. Before long, the story was spreading and naturally getting twisted.

I went to a new church and it seemed like the COZA bug had chased me there. The pastor would always refer to COZA as some example and each time that was done, it seemed like a spear was thrust through my chest. One day, I broke down in the service and started crying uncontrollably, as I couldn’t take another mention of COZA and the pictures it painted in my head.

Very long, boring story cut short, for the last 5 months I gave the whole church thing a big space and break. I wasn’t sure I believed in God. I wasn’t sure I understood what it meant when people said ‘Jesus saves” and I definitely wasn’t sure how to deal with the mental torture that was affecting not just me but my relationships with family and friends. I was very unstable, fearful and worst of all guilty. I got a chance to talk to Pastor Folarin of COZA Lagos Chapter, popularly called Pastor flo about everything. I made an effort to reach out to him because I realized the right thing to do was talk to an elder in the church and seek some sort of remedy to a wrong I believed had been done me. Instead, Pastor Flo said, Pastor Biodun had confessed to him and they had ‘talked’ about it and somehow that was supposed to be Ok. He asked what it was I wanted coming to talk to him about it when I did, I told him I realized what happened between Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and I was wrong and not just that I felt abused and manipulated.

I also said I thought it was wrong for Pastor Biodun to go on preaching without taking time to deal with his personal character flaws. I said I thought he was danger to all the young women that attended the church. Come to think of it, maybe he meant if I wanted something monetary or material (as someone had suggested when I opened up to her) but the truth is, I never wanted his money (or is it the church member’s money.) All I wanted was to meet with him and have him accept that he misled me, betrayed his wife and the church he pastors. I wasn’t the only lady in COZA who had been a victim of his sexcapades and manipulative patterns but I was the one who could come back after months of struggle with not just my faith but also my affair with him. And I wanted to set things right. I wanted to talk to Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo maybe for closure and I felt like I needed an apology because he played the “touch not my anointed” card to keep me locked in guilt, shame and fear when all along it was a calculated plan and I dare say, it started when he asked me to join the workforce.

Not to mention the audacity to talk about teaching me a level of grace I didn’t understand. I had no intention of understanding a grace that would permit me to go on doing things that were wrong and what’s worse having to carry the burden for almost a year.

Different surprising advises came up in the weeks that followed the rumour making rounds. I was told to hush because Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo had been a cultist in the past and could send people to shut me up. All my so-called friends in COZA withdrew from me and treated me like I had the plague. What was worse was Pastor Flo finally saw my then pastor to ‘talk’ about what had happened with Pastor Biodun and lied that it happened once and was a mistake. My question then became, ‘do these people even care how broken I had become?’ ’do they care about the emotional and spiritual welfare of the people they were pastoring?’ The sad answer was NO. Most of us old members of COZA kept leaving but they couldn’t care less. What was important was to keep growing the church and having more and more cars with stickers that read “More than enough.” Back then, I always felt horrible when I saw another car drive past me with the sticker. I was breaking, I was struggling but no one could help. All they could do was ask me to hide so Pastor Biodun’s goons don’t hurt me. And then the interesting one was if I had evidence to prove my claim. Let me just say here that, it isn’t a claim, it’s a confession to free me from all of the guilt and shame I have had to live with for no reason at all. (That being said, I have evidence to prove all I have said here, the latest being a 58 minutes recording of my meeting with Pastor Flo a few months back)

This is my confession and I cannot begin to describe how much weight has been lifted off of my shoulders just pouring the truth out about what went down. So, to all my ex COZA friends gossiping about me, get your facts right. To those who said they’d help me deal with the pain but didn’t, I forgive you, I have learnt how to deal with it and I am doing just fine. To those who fear for my safety saying Pastor Biodun would send people to shut me up, I really have gone past fearing for my life. To live is gain and to die is Christ (or how does Paul say it again?) And to the only person who ever supported me through it all, thank you, I am learning to be brave. Please don’t think I am perfect in all of this but in line with living my authentic life and putting all forms of abuse behind me, this is where I press the stop button and stop the bleeding. This is where I break the silence and call the church to stand up for what it has been commissioned to do. If you will not enter the Kingdom, please don’t stop others who are trying to enter.

I still remember when I used to nurse the idea of digging up emails, text messages, hotel billings (as once I used my card to pay for his room when his master card failed to work) to prove there was an affair. It was pathetic. Why for the love of heaven was I trying to dig up evidence? I am satisfied setting the record straight. I am ready for any shaming or bashing that would follow because the truth is, because of what I have suffered and come through, I am really not moved by what people say or think about me anymore. I am a stronger woman and a damn abuse survivor seeking to connect with other victims of abuse to show them how to deal with the shame, hurt and guilt and how to come out stronger. Turning their mess into their message.

I am Ese Walter and I have gone through all forms of abuse from family, boyfriends, my ex pastor and some strangers not to break me, but so I stand and so I qualify to help victims. My scars have qualified me and when all is said and done, I will still be standing. I AM WOMAN, I BEND, I DON’T BREAK!

Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and Ese Walter

Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo’s Reply To Ese Walter’s Sex Scandal

It was an atmosphere of artificial crowd and artificial shouting in COZA, OluFamous.Com observed, as the man in the eye of the storm, Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo mounted the pulpit during Sunday service to REACT to what you all have been reading about him in the social media.

Artificial crowd in the sense that Pastor Biodun himself admitted that many of those present in church were not the usual faces he used to see. And here is what Pastor Biodun said:
“I’m sure you read somethings about me in the social network. I’ve been receiving calls from different people even big people in government… They have been advising me; ‘don’t talk, we understand’.
Read my lips, because I know that there are people here that are not part of us:
We are going to speak but we are consulting. We’ll come out with a robust reply…..but for now…we ask God he said ‘don’t talk’…. My destiny is not in anybody’s hands…”
He also said something like people are trying to bring him down because he is building a new church:
“Brethren, no one will see our new church building site and not want to bring us down.”

It’s kind of sad that Pastor Biodun could not BOLDLY deny this sex story. What is really going on?

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Oro Worshippers Hold Funeral Rites For Pastor Ajanaku

Prophet AjanakuThe confidence exhibited by his wife notwithstanding, it was gathered that the founder and spiritual leader of Christ Revival Victory Chapel, Prophet Iretiola Ajanaku is dead!

Also, latest revelations from his hometown indicates that the Pastor might have been a member of the Oro cult. It may sound incredible, read the report below:

Incredible! Oro Worshippers Hold Funeral Rites For Pastor Ajanaku
by Jumu’ah Abiodun of Gazelle News:

Residents of Ikola Odunsi, where Ajanaku lived before he breathed his last on Saturday evening at Gbongan in Osun State, were surprised early Tuesday morning when Oro masquerades went to town in funeral rites for the departed ‘Pastor’.

The funeral rites which began at about 12.30am ended between 3am and 4am.

The Oro worshipers chanted the name of Ajanaku throughout the night. The worshipers marched through the streets of Ikola Odunsi, Ikola Gbenaje, and landed at the deceased’s street, Folarin Williams Close.

They were chanting, “Ajanaku lo, o di gbere”, which translates to “Ajanaku is gone forever, adieu”

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Actress Fathia Balogun’s Involvement In My Crashed Marriage? ––Moji Olaiya Speaks

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A lot has been said about the alleged involvement of divorced actress, Fathia Balogun, in the issues that led to the crashed of actress Moji Olaiya’s marriage. Now Moji herself has set the record straight…

The popular actress, in a chat with ‘Nonye Ben-Nwankwo of Punch, about her career and why she walked out of her troubled marriage. Excerpt:

You are in a soon to be released soap, Glass House. How did it come about?
A producer we call Jerry (Isichei) produced it. I am a major cast in the series.

Most people know you as a Yoruba actress, but you are now featuring in an English series.
But this is not my first job in English. Don’t forget that I came to the limelight through Super Story and which of course, was in English. I am also in Nowhere to be Found, which is another popular soap.

We learnt that you played the role of an illiterate woman in Glass House
Yes, and it was very challenging. I got married to a bank chairman in the series and I am also a publisher. I played ‘Moji’ even in the series. The character is just a very funny person. I must tell you the soap is very interesting. I am very happy I played that part.

You have not produced any movie in recent times
The last movie I produced was last year and it even won an award. It was premiered in Canada at the Toronto film festivals. The market is not really encouraging now. That is why most producers are really calming down to see the outcome of this piracy issue. That is why most people are not doing movies now.

Are you saying you didn’t make enough from your last movie?
We didn’t make what we expected because of piracy. However, the movie sold. It won the best movie award at last year’s Yoruba Movies Academy Awards. It was also screened at the Africa Movies Academy Awards.

But it wasn’t nominated in any category.
I don’t know what happened. As far as I know, it was well shot. It had good picture quality.

Will you say your father’s name has opened a lot of doors for you?
I’ll say yes. Let’s take for instance my state, Ekiti State. Most things they call my father to do, because he is old and cannot be travelling up and down, they call me to do them. I even remember the first time I went to the German Embassy for a visa. Getting the visa was very quick because the lady that attended to me knew who my father was. I got the visa. I am proud to be associated with him as somebody I can call my father. There are so many legends out there, yet their children are not proud of them.

Granted your father is a showbiz man, but most of your siblings are in other professions. How come you are the one that went into showbiz?
I think it is where God wants me to be. It is my destiny. When I was little, I loved entertainment. I was called to act and sing in my church when I was little. Growing up though, I never had the intention of acting. However, along the way, I got into it. I’ll just call it luck. I have no regret. If I should come back to this world again, I still will love to be an entertainer.

What really happened to your marriage?
You see, I am an advocate of marriage. I preach that women should be in their husbands’ houses. All my life, I have always wanted to get married and stay with my husband and bring my children up in the fear of the Lord. But along the line, things didn’t work out. I don’t even want to get into the details so that it doesn’t get messier. But things didn’t work out.

So you left your marriage because ‘things didn’t work out’?
If things are not really working out, I think the best thing for you to do is to quit and leave everything in the hands of God.

Be sincere, whose fault was it that it didn’t work out?
I don’t think it was my fault. I didn’t have any fault in the marriage. However, I will not blame the other party. I really want to keep this off the press as I have been advised by my family. It just didn’t work out.

Some might think that you didn’t want to stay in a husband’s house
I don’t think I will get married and say that I don’t want to stay in my husband’s house. It is only a senseless person that will do that. I am in my late 30’s. Why would I, at this age, not want to be in a husband’s house? It’ll get to a time that you will need a man. But when you get the man and things are not working the way you planned and you know you still have a long way to go in life, you have a fruitful career, then the best thing for you to do is to quit the marriage and let the man go.

Could it be that you got another man because we learnt that you have a Canada-based lover
Is it possible for me to get married to someone else when I am not officially divorced? I don’t know how people think. I don’t have anybody in Canada and I have never dated anybody in Canada. Even people who know me are not usually aware when I am in Canada. Canada is my second home, but I am always inside. I really don’t know where they got this false story from.

But are you planning to get married soon?
I am not planning to get married soon. And just to get it straight, I am just separated from my husband. I am not legally divorced and I don’t have any lover anywhere.

What if you and your husband make up eventually?
Well… I will not say anything about that. I just think we should leave everything to God. Let him perform that wonder that He wants to perform. I believe that He is up to something.

You talk like somebody who is pained
When things you didn’t plan for happen, it will hurt you especially with all the things happening in our industry now. People think we are not serious and we don’t understand the institution of marriage. That is not so. My parents weren’t separated. I was brought up properly. My siblings are married. It is painful when you get married and you eventually leave that marriage because of something that is beyond your control.

You used to say you are an evangelist
I am an evangelist. I am a strong Christian. I preach on TV. So what am I teaching the younger ones? Am I telling them that marriage is not good? No. So I feel pained that this is happening. It is good to be married. It is good to have a crown over your head, somebody that can control you and you bear his name. It is painful; I know I am a role model to so many people. I know some people’s impression about me will be affected. But I know best and I know why it happened. I am sure that God will not even be angry with me that I made the decision at that time. I am sure I have not made the wrong decision. I would only tell my fans that I didn’t enjoy doing this but they just have to support me and pray along with me. I am an advocate of a peaceful marriage. Women should be married. I am not speaking for anybody but my colleagues whose marriages broke up know why they left their marriages. I did what I did because it was the best thing I could do.

But every lady needs a man beside her. How will you be managing?
I didn’t say marriage is out of the way now. Now that I got married and it didn’t work out, I have to be careful the next time. I have to choose well so as to avoid the first mistake. I am just taking my time. And in fact, God might even tell me to go back to my first marriage, He can also tell me to move on. So let us just leave it for God to handle.

Could it be your profession that affected your marriage?
I don’t think so. While I was with him, I didn’t feature in so many movies. I just faced my marriage. It was just recently that I started featuring in movies. I never went for awards or functions. I wanted that marriage to really work. However, he even met me as an actress. I couldn’t have left my career because of marriage. In fact, I cannot leave my career for any marriage, no way! Even if I am getting married to the richest man, I don’t think he will tell me to quit acting.

Did he ask you to stop?
He never asked me to stop acting. We never had any issue concerning my career.

We know Fathia Balogun is your friend. Could it be that you decided to leave your marriage because your friend is also separated from her husband?
Fathia is my friend, I cannot deny that. But I couldn’t have left my marriage because hers didn’t work out. It is wrong for anybody to think that way. She knows what happened in her case, I know what happened in my own case. Come to think of it, when I go on set, I just want to face my business and get out. I don’t listen to gossip. I don’t know who is fighting over men. I just do my job and it is over. I don’t believe that anybody in her right senses will fight over a man.

Were your parents in support of the separation?
I didn’t take the decision alone. But I think I will leave this out of the papers. I am an advocate of a good thing. I will get married again. I have to know what I want. I have to know who the person really is before I get into it.

Didn’t you know who he was before you got married to him?
I can’t really say I didn’t know who he was. But things just happened. God knows best. Let us just leave it at that.

Did you have any children?
No.

Could it have been the reason for the break up?
No way. He is not God and I am not God. The marriage was just three years. We have seen couples who didn’t have kids for so many years and they didn’t break up. Not having kids couldn’t have been the issue because I know I don’t have a problem. He doesn’t have a problem too. He has two kids and I have a kid before we got married.

Do we see you doing another thing apart from movies?
Yes. I will start events management. I will open my business very soon.
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7 Personal Branding Lessons To Learn From Dbanj

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Personal branding, as you would know it, is about everything you do; going by the term, it is you as a brand.
Every job, every social and personal endeavor is tied to your personal brand. You can’t go wrong if you focus on that. Dapo Oyebanjo, famously known as D’banj has some lessons for us:
See The 7 Personal Branding Lessons To Learn From Dbanj

#7. Blow your trumpet. Not the Harmonica.
There’s a mental appeal to “I’m Dbanj!” . Everytime. Bursting out your speakers, you recognise the voice and probably hum along. For some people, this may come across as a gratuitous display but we overlook the psychological impact it spawns.

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Whatever motive or element of character prompts the action doesn’t matter. The message remains clear. If you don’t praise yourself, or “toot your own horn”, who will?

You don’t need to rub it in people’s faces that you graduated with a first class degree from Harvard, there are a bazillion people like you already. But you should always pitch yourself. You are a brand remember? And brands are not made to sit in the laps of its makers but to be shipped, pitched, sweet-talked, into the minds of people.

#6. Your network says a lot about you.
Successful people are not lone rangers and Dbanj makes no mistake about it. The acclaimed nephew to Snoop Lion makes seemingly strategic moves to be with/around people who have gained high level of popularity and are loved by a number of people; Kanye West for example..

Move with people who’d stretch you beyond your comfort zone. You carry on a more appealing brand when you spend time with quality people.

“You now have to decide what ‘image’ you want for your brand. Image means personality. Products, like people, have personalities, and they can make or break them in the market place.” – David Ogilvy

#5. Match your style with your personality.
Seriously, the “dress how you want to be addressed” saying works. You look like a farmer, you’ll be addressed that way.

Confident, poised, Dbanj lives up to his taste and matches it with his style. Every darn detail.
According to a research in psychology, attractive people are more likely to get successful faster than average people who probably pay little attention to their appearances. It’s not a wonder why he bags awards and signs deals after deals.

#4. It’s OK to “fake it till you make it”.
Perception is everything in our world today. Dbanj probably ended up looking like Rick-Ross-hit-the-gym in his bid to throw a new look with Kanye’s signature beard, but that’s a reflection of where he aspires to be.
Most successful people start out (early on) with mentors or notable persons they want to take after, usually; they turn out more refined and very very successful.

Whatever you aspire to be, look out for people doing remarkably well – study their biographies, updates on their achievements and basically any information you can find on them. Pick out what you like most about these people and modify to suit your person.

#3. Be innovative.
Dbanj “invented” the following words/slogans – in order of preference; Tongolo, kokolet,The koko, Eja nla, (the reincarnation of) Oliver Twist, why me?, Oshey! File! etc etc. I might just feel good about myself if you called me a Kokolet – it wouldn’t matter whether I’m having a bad hair day or not. These widely accepted catchwords are all accrued to the energetic crooner himself, making it very possible for him to create a name around his passion.

#2. Entertain people.
You’ll agree most of Dbanj’s songs were hits, topping charts in Nigeria and around the world. His performances and (which people add to their collection of dance moves), or that he speaks gibberish sometimes; Dbanj is recognised as an entertainer.

You want people to enjoy having you as company? Find out what makes them tick, know a little more about them, it’ll set you a stage and perhaps earn you a standing ovation.

#1. Stand out. Be unique.
Dbanj stood out for introducing the harmonica into his first few songs, a fusion with pop that rocked for a long time. Yes the harmonica stood him out. His “marriage” to Don Jazzy stood him out.

To strengthen the headlines, Taiwo Oyebanjo was referred to as Dbanj’s sister; it simply attracted more attention; largely because of his fame – which would have been impossible if Dbanj chose to stick to the rules.

You want people to enjoy having you as company? Find out what makes them tick, know a little more about them, it’ll set you a stage and perhaps earn you a standing ovation.

A final note:
– Your circle of influence matters.
– If you want to go far, find someone who can shoot you to the top and ride that horse!
– It’s your identity, love it, talk about it.
– Perception is everything; observe how you come across to people. Value opinions, sift through irrelevancies and adjust as necessary.
– It’s not really about working harder, but making smart choices and moving with the ‘right’ people.
A conscious work on your personal brand helps you evolve faster, makes you unique, valuable and powerful; allowing you flaunt your strengths. Once you know what’s compelling about you, you’ll use that as an anchor to build a strong career.Strong brands attract premium offers, Dbanj is one no doubt. Don’t believe? Check out his accolades.

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Richest Black Woman, Folorunsho Alakija Shares The Secrets

Folorunso Alakija

Today Mrs. Folorunsho Alakija is the Executive Vice Chairman of Famfa Oil and Executive Vice Chairman of Dayspring Property Development Company. In addition, she is the Founder, Rose of Sharon Foundation, an NGO that caters for widows and orphans across the country.

At any empowerment program she organizes for the less privileged, she does it with modesty and humility as she danced and ate with them. She is down to earth and has deep passion for God’s work.

Below is how she tells her story and the secrets:

You have authored Growing with the hands that gives the rose, University of Marriage and now The cry of widows and orphans. How did you make out time for these with your busy schedule?It’s the grace of God. It’s not just me. Many years ago, God told me that I will author books and it’s not that I didn’t believe it, I did, but I just didn’t know how or when it would happen. Now, the rest is history. So I give Him the praise. It has been through His grace. When He calls you to do something, He gives you grace to achieve it.

With your most recent book, what do you intend to achieve?
I basically want the world to be aware of the plight and challenges of widows and orphans. The world should rise up and show concern by doing something about their situation. Enough of lip service, it’s about time that we took the bull by the horns and began to do something. These are human beings who are supposed to be our mothers and sisters. Let’s be our brothers keepers. Let’s do something about their situation. It’s really about advocacy. We want to use the book to knock on doors, to wake people up from their slumber, to make them realize that there are some human beings in our world that are going through traumatic experience.

Your Rose of Sharon Foundation recently marked its fifth anniversary. Tell us your motivation for the foundation and how it has fared?Our focus is the alleviation of the suffering of widows and orphans, just as the scripture says. We do so through the design and execution of programs that give financial independence and educational opportunities to widows, their children and orphans. A journey that started with three widows on 23rd May, 2008, has blossomed into a network of almost a thousand widows today. Since inception, the foundation has empowered 970 widows, 11 of whom are in the university; awarded scholarships to 1, 366 widows’ children and 72 orphans. The loans given to widows are interest free and the scholarships have no conditions attached. It has also provided accommodation for business purposes for 82 widows. Moreover, we have provided some free healthcare check-ups and free legal services to our widows with the support of other agencies.

What have been your challenges in your efforts to better the lot of widows?
Funding has always been a challenge. We’ve never had enough funds to be able to attend to the needs of all those who require assistance because their number is alarming. It’s when you get involved in it that you realize the number of widows in the country. Already, in Lagos State, we are overwhelmed . They seem to know one another and where to find each other. They are each other’s friends. As a result of the empowerment that we provide, they go back and advertise Rose of Sharon Foundation to their friends. We always find that we are empowering more. We will need to hire more hands for counseling and verification.

What’s your typical day like?
I thank God for the staff God has given me, who give me maximum support. I give the instructions, they do a lot of groundwork and I do the supervision. They support me in every way. The foundation members and the trustees are working and they are supportive. I’m not working as a loner. God is kind; He is bringing the right people at the right time.

Aside your business, you also run The Rose of Sharon Ministry, coupled with the widows and orphans foundation and you are also one of the front liners in your local church . How do you cope with all these assignments?I have told you it’s by God’s grace. There is nothing you cannot achieve with God and with God there is nothing you won’t achieve. So, it’s a matter of holding to that pillar, praying, letting Him know that you cannot do any of these without Him. That is when He steps in and makes things easier for you.

Your spiritual life is so intriguing; coming from a Muslim background, you preach the gospel even more than those nurtured in Christian homes. How did you become a preacher?I’m not competing with anyone. I don’t know I’m even there yet. I just believe that I will continue to answer Him and do His bidding, His will. I set my time to please Him. I want to make heaven and I want my family and my friends to make heaven.

What’s your advice to women who are determined to improve themselves?
As you start, ask God to help you stick to your plan and He will because when you are spiritually at peace, you will, have peace of mind, which will help you attain and maintain a physical and emotional balance. It’s essential to draw up a “things to do” list on a daily basis and set priorities in executing them, making sure that any unfinished task get posted to the next day’s list. Remove what is bad for you. As you do, consider what would give you more time for yourself, your health, rest and recreation, and more time for and with your family. Learning to say “no” as it’s also a practical way to re-organize your life. We do not have to keep saying “yes” to every request just because we want to be nice.

Can you tell us how you met your husband?
I returned from England in December 1972 and within 2 weeks of my arrival in Nigeria, I met Mr. Modupe Alakija, a dashing young lawyer, at a party in Surulere. Though I was in the company of my elder brother, he insisted on driving me home and from that point on, we dated regularly for three and half years and we got married on November12th 1976. During our courtship, we partied, dined, visited friends, combed streets, markets and generally had a swell time in each other’s company. We went out frequently for lunch and dinner visiting suya and decent mama put joints. I also have fond memories of many times we drove to Badagry and Epe just to buy fresh fish.

You dress beautifully, what inspired your style?
I derive a lot of pleasure from dressing beautifully and appropriately for every occasion. My embroidered headties are my signature accessory and have become synonymous with me. Nobody looking for me has any difficulty in fishing me out in a crowdwhen I am in my native attire. I receive even more compliments for my head ties abroad. My long skirts and blouses, day suits, evening wears and casuals must always be impeccably fitted, as I would never wear anything less. My colours must be bright as the African weather. I love to look beautiful and have beautiful people and things around me.

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Julius Agwu Says His Wife Doesn’t Show Him Public Affection

Julius Agwu and Family

Is Comedian Julius Agwu actually complaining about marriage or what? Read what he said about marriage and his wife’s attitude in a recent chat and decide for your self:

“It has not been easy. Marriage can be funny. When it is sweet, it is sweet, and when you quarrel with your spouse, it looks as if that is the end of the marriage. But my attitude has always been that no two marriages can be the same. That has been my style.

“You may quarrel, keep malice but the most important thing is that I have decided to spend the rest of my life with her, for better and for worse until death do us apart.”

What I dislike about my wife
“My wife is not as loving as I would have wanted her to be. There’s what we call display of public affection, she does not give me that. That’s one thing I don’t like about her. May be, it’s because she’s an introvert. Sometimes, I get scared because of her quietness.”
It’s good he has admitted that he decided to spend his life with her, come what may. #LifeTimeDecisionJulius Agwu and Family

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Mercy Johnson and kid shows off..

Mercy Johnson Bikini Photo
The gorgeous Nollywood actress is enjoying some good time in the private pool in the new house she moved into recently with her husband and their little angle, which cost them a fortune.

Well, if you look at the picture very well ehn….you might just be lucky to see the below area of her bikini.
*wink*

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Don Jazzy backwhen grass to glory stories tweets unfold…

Many do not believe, but Don Jazzy, the popular music producer, has confirmed it personally that it is indeed a miracle to him today that he lives in a mansion, drives one of the most expensive cars around and is now a force to reckon with in the entertainment industry.

But how did he get to where he is today? Below is what Don Jazzy said:
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